As you exam your beliefs, you will undoubtedly find several beliefs that are in opposition. Beliefs,
more than likely, you are unaware of existing. Beliefs tugging away in opposite directions are called
polar beliefs. They leave you paralyzed in position. Unless one belief is significantly stronger,
differences in experiences will not be noticed. Belief opposition ends in a stalemate!
Your encounter with polarized beliefs presents itself in the form of doubt, fear, long periods of deliberation over choices, over analysis paralysis and other forms of indecision over what action to take. Pay attention to your thoughts when emotions such as these arise. A message of sorts is being sent to you that beliefs are not cohesive on the matter.
As an example, people often deliberate extensively over a change in jobs. Often it is with great difficulty that a decision is made. However, know this. If you do not make a choice deliberately over what it is you are deliberating on, a decision will always be made for you. Your thoughts and beliefs will attract into your experience an option through passive selection based upon your strongest beliefs. Again, this is seemingly why experiences appear thrust upon us. We feel we had no choice in the matter. But we did. We do not realize that our deliberation was causing a tug-a-war amongst our beliefs. An experience soon follows the battle with the strongest belief providing our experience.
This period of deliberation is often caused by polar beliefs. If you look closely, you will see clearly all of the beliefs tugging away at each other. Consider the potential thoughts a person has as he or she contemplates a switch in jobs: I have the opportunity to make more money. But I like the people at my current job. What if I don’t like the new job? I work less hours now. The new job is an advancement opportunity.
While these might look like statements of facts, they are far from it. They are thoughts about what you believe is important. They drive your decision making. What you do not realize is that what is important to you can be contained nicely under one roof when your beliefs support the foundation. In the above example, a belief is held that limited opportunity and reward are not available in your current position. Skepticism is conversely held in likeability of the new job and potentially new co-workers. You could reconcile your beliefs in favor of your current job or in favor of your new job and the deliberation would end. We arrive at decisions this way; by reconciling our beliefs and validating them. Our experience then follows.
It is easy to get caught up in excuse making such as, “Well my current job does pay less,” or “I would have to work longer hours!” But again, thoughts provide experiences. If your thoughts changed to increasing your pay or working fewer hours now, the way would pave itself in either job. Unfortunately, your beliefs guard you against seeing those opportunities.
However, in many situations polarized beliefs are not readily apparent although they prevent you from attracting your ideals. You have many polarized beliefs that you remain contently unaware of. As you delve into your belief system, these forces of opposition will become more apparent to you.
Ridding polar beliefs is not as crucial as realigning them so they can coexist. Often it is a matter of reinterpreting one of the beliefs in light of the other. Occasionally, you will have to reject a polar belief that does not serve your purpose.
Suppose it is important to you be a role model parent to your child. You may hold the belief that being a responsible parent entails spending as much free time with your child as possible, attending extracurricular activities and being available for homework questions.
However, upon further examination, you may discover that your beliefs regarding success contradict your beliefs on being an ideal parent. You may believe working long hours, forgoing family vacations, and missed soccer games equate to the hard working endeavors necessary to becoming successful.
Since your beliefs on success contradict your beliefs on being a responsible parent, you may be falsely condemning yourself to a life of mediocrity. Depending on the intensity of your belief on being a role model parent, you may be attracting those situations that validate your responsible parent role and repelling situations that could provide you with the success you desire without even realizing it. Because you have a polarized belief tugging against your definition of success, success is elusive. You are not on “successes” frequency because your beliefs are preventing success from migrating to you. You cannot dodge the strength of your strongest beliefs.
You do not need to change your beliefs on being a responsible parent. On the contrary, those beliefs are probably quite well in serving you. However, you do need to change your beliefs on achieving success so it coexists with your beliefs on being a responsible parent.
Since your beliefs about success were most likely picked up from television, books, film features and what little you interpret from successful people, an ingestion of contrary beliefs is needed. Find stories about successful people who are not working eighty hours a week for those stories only served your old belief system. Instead seek out stories about successful people engaging in ample opportunities with their children. Validate your new beliefs regularly.
People often hold contrary beliefs on wealth and abundance, ways in which wealth is provided, beliefs about wanting wealth and perceptions of wealthy people. For example people’s attempts at achieving wealth and abundance are counteracted upon by their perception of wealthy people as snobs. While wanting wealth, you may not want the stuffiness of the country club that comes with it.
An individual may live in middle class America unable to escape repetition of thought when it comes to lack of success. This person might waffle between thoughts of prosperity and conflicting thoughts of doubt, thus ending the battle for success in a stalemate. Conversely, another person may be born in to utter poverty, yet plant that one seed of opportunity, growing out of poverty into an abundant life far surpassing their middle classman. It is your thoughts that matter!
While these might not be your specific thoughts, you hold countless beliefs that contradict one another. Recognizing that opposition results in a stalemate, it is worth your while to inspect your beliefs to ensure they are in alignment with what you are trying to attract. Dissecting every belief would consume you. Stick to dissecting those beliefs in areas you wish to effectuate. What are your problem areas? Find the polar beliefs.
Do you recognize yourself in any of these descriptions: pack rat, hoarder, indecisive, difficultly being spontaneous, or are you too routine? That describes a lot of us, doesn’t it? If you meet one of these descriptions, what beliefs do you think you harbor in regards to change? Abundance has no need to hoard or store. Lack of spontaneity and indecision spell, I don’t know what I want. If you knew what you wanted, you would do it immediately. You would not have to think about it. You have many beliefs that already conflict with change. Chipping away at polar beliefs allows change to enter in.
With conflicting thoughts consuming our thinking, the event that materializes is either event or a blending of both. It depends on the intensity, the length of thought given, and the feelings. Attempts to identify which matter you gave greater frequency of attention to, coupled with the intensity of emotion may be difficult to determine.
Replaying negative episodes in your mind causes you to relive them again and again unnecessarily. Most events do not unfold in the same capacity or intensity that we fear or hope for because of the blending of thoughts lent to the situation. If we have fretted over something, replaying the event over and over in our mind like a B grade movie will only cause us to repeatedly live mentally and emotionally through the event unnecessarily. Often events are not are bad as we imagined because of hope blended with fear. How many times have you said, “Gee, that was not as bad as I thought it would be.” This is due to our contrary thoughts. But if we have dwelled solely on the worse case scenario, then the worst case is what we are presented with. You get what you think about.
As I said before, if you do not intentionally direct your thoughts to an outcome, an outcome will still be produced through the strength of your most powerful beliefs. Eventually something unfolds creating finality to your deliberation. Conclusion could come in the form of an unexpected job promotion or raise given from your current employer, a diagnosis could be revoked, or unexpected news could create stronger thoughts in one direction. Your thoughts and beliefs will always provide for you.
Familiarizing yourself with your beliefs gives you the opportunity to realign them with your ideals. The law of attraction always provides. If we feel it has failed us in some way it is only because our thoughts, beliefs and ideals are not in alignment. One of them is denying you entry to accessing the Universal Mind.
It is said that people who are successful are quick to make decisions and slow to change their mind. It is not superpower thinking that influences their decision making ability. It is not special knowledge or higher power. People who are successful know what they want. They are quick to make decisions because their beliefs are in alignment with their ideals. They have wiped out the ping pong game played with polar beliefs. Your goal is to effectively rid yourself of beliefs that gnaw away at your ideals. As you do this, you must ratchet up beliefs that support your ideals. The polarization is then eliminated. This is all that separates you from stinking thinking and successful thinking.
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