Your will power, thoughts and imagination are bound together. Will power NEVER goes against them. Therefore, it behooves you to try to abandon through willpower the thoughts you have imagined. You cannot do it.
You are always in a state of attracting. What you attract depends upon what you think about and believe. Your will power is your power of attracting as you will something to happen. Your will is your thoughts materializing.
Understand that you cannot use your willpower as a weapon against your thoughts and imagination. Your will draws reality towards you like an earth magnet. It is unwavering, unbendable and unstoppable until you change your thoughts.
Diets fail, addiction treatment plans fail, marriages fail when you consume yourself with thoughts of donuts, drugs, or adulterous desires and then try to waive off the materialization of those events with some incredible will power. Your will power is not some super hero inner strength that allows you to thwart off a donut, a drink or an affair. It is exactly the opposite! Your will power is your power to draw to you what you think about. The only way to prevent the materializations of events is by stopping your thoughts.
Thoughts attract similar thoughts; similar thoughts band together as ideas. Mental pictures are painted. Soon you are visualizing. It is the obsessive repetition of thought that draws forth unwanted behavior. You have to be immediately willing to banish thoughts unworthy of you from the focus of your attention. Your bad habits are conquerable when your thinking is consciously directed away from the habitually bad thoughts. That is the only way. Soon your physical world will turn about and seem to cure you. But it is the steered thinking that altered your experience.
Think of your will as self talk. The repeated messages that you send yourself direct your experience. For example, if self-talk includes commenting on the undesirable status of your weight, obsessing over what afflicts you, or a dread of exercising each of these conditions will magnetically be drawn to you. As you fight for control, you further draw undesirable situations because you are magnifying your thoughts in these areas. Your power resides in redirecting your thoughts not in trying to redirect the environment the thoughts produced.
What many of us attempt to do is diet by forgoing food or battling intense exercise regimes. While physical exercise has its benefits and place, you are fat because of your thoughts. You are consumed by thoughts of food and weight. You try to diet by forcing food away. However, you continue thinking about brownies, treats and the taste of bacon. Repeatedly trying to shove the food away does not work. Your thoughts, imagination and WILL POWER are strong attractants. They will produce results whether you like it or not. Directing your thoughts away from food and the scales will change your weight. That is your only option.
What do we say about a person who is on a diet and forgoes desert? “Oh my, what astonishing will power!” However, it is not the will power that banished the dessert. The thoughts of the dessert were not allowed to spin out of control. The person’s thoughts were on anything BUT the dessert. You cannot think of dessert or its delicious offering and push it aside. Your thoughts are what are pushed aside first! You reject the dessert by rejecting first the thoughts.
You might think that you have been thinking fat thoughts and so agree to think thin thoughts. However, you “imagine snacks.” You think you are powerless to your own will. However as I have stated, your will power followed your imagination. One million Americans are overweight. Five million diet each year in futile attempts to shed pounds that only regain themselves over time. Failed attempt after failed attempt leaves you feeling in the dumps. All you think about is dieting plagued by these incredible urges to eat. If you had listened to your feelings (feeling bad about your weight and failures) you would have known they were trying to tell you something about your thoughts. You are attracting more reasons to feel bad, more weight, more down in the dump feelings. Your attempts to thwart a reality that you created through thought are impossible. You have to change your thinking. When you think of yourself at your ideal weight, feel good about the person you are right now and push aside the thoughts of weight, you will experience change. You have to love yourself the way you are, adore your body and feel good about the person you see in the mirror in order to be given more experiences of feeling good about who you are. That is will power in action! It is the attracting will power of specific constructive thoughts, I love who I am and the rejection of “I am fat” thought in action here.
Remember we talked about the power the word I am contains. Whatever follows I am are your beliefs. Your beliefs dish out your reality. So what you believe about I am (fill in the blank) is what you are going to get without fail every single time.
Every person that is overweight is consumed by thoughts of food, right size portions, hunger, special diets, new diets, tight clothes, calories, carbs, protein, foregoing dessert, cellulite, dress size, and how nice fries would taste right now. Overweight people are consumed with thoughts of food and their body size. Right weight people give no more thought to food than they do a blade a grass. In fact, food is so far from their thoughts they often forget it is time to eat. Their thoughts are not consumed with hunger or their clothing size. Right weight people look in the mirror and think I like how I look today.
Change your thinking. Change your life. Do not underestimate the power of your will. Do not think for one moment that you can entertainment negative thoughts and reject their consequences. The key is to lock the door on thoughts that destruct you. You must with all effort imposed push them from you mind.
People who lose weight, have a drinking problem, or drug addiction have incredible difficulty overcoming their obstacles due to will power. They put their problems constantly in the forefront of their thoughts and then try to reject the outcomes. They are met with debacle every time. You cannot reject physically what you have produced mentally. You cannot WILL away the physical aspects of what your thoughts have produced. Your will power follows your thoughts and imagination WITHOUT FAIL. You cannot use your will power as a weapon against thoughts and imagination. It is their ally. We refer to our will power backwards so often. We have deceived ourselves (built up this false belief) into thinking we have super strength to will away what we think about. However, you get what you think about every single time.
Often times we find some people get sick, get better, and get sick again. Or they lose weight and then gain it right back. Ultimately, the bad thoughts return surging them once again with a notion of weakness. Why does this happen if thoughts are attracting powerful thoughts and positive beliefs are growing? How does the bad habit return? By the time you have lost the weight or have been won over to good health, shouldn’t you continue going in that direction?
Two aspects of the power of thought occur when we yo-yo up and down in pants size or yo-yo up and down spectrum of health. First, polarized thinking is ravaging the thought process. Second, normal neutral keeps you grounded. You can pivot in any direction away from normal neutral. However, until you change your normal neutral pivoting point your polarized thoughts will return you to that normal neutral point of inspection. People plagued with weight problems or illnesses never really change their thinking patterns. For instance, they may constantly watch food in-take as they slim down. They obsess over their weight. They worry about gaining weight back. If a person is ill, that person may worry about getting sick again. The habitual thoughts never leave their mind. They are still focused on the destructive thoughts. However, they have temporarily moved to the positive aspects of the destructive thoughts. For example, you can think about how good you feel about your body size or how bad you feel about your body size; but you are still noticing your body size.
You take any bad habit and you will find that it is a bad habit of the mind. Your thoughts are where the offenders lay. When you try to make physical corrections, you lose every time. You have to rid yourself of the offending thoughts first. If you attack the outward physical condition but do nothing to correct destructive thoughts, your destructive thoughts will return your destructive physical condition.
Smalls seeds of beliefs build allowing you temporary positive successes. However, in the trenches lay the negative habitual thoughts that are very comfortable to you. Eventually you allow them to creep back in without even an awareness that they are doing so. Your bad habit thoughts whisper, “We’ve been good. One piece of pie won’t hurt.” Remember your thoughts have attracting power. As soon as you allow a destructive thought in, others will follow. Soon you have eaten three desserts; gained fifteen pounds back and feel bad about yourself! The only way to rid the difficulty in your life is to rid all thoughts, positively constructed or negatively constructed, that center round the problem.
Remember feelings are navigators that indicate whether you are moving towards harmony, away from harmony or are at normal neutral. If you do not feel really good about yourself or condition then you must take action to acquire that feeling.
Whatever your perceived problem is, as it enters your mind, state your ideal you, and then dismiss that thought. Excuse it. Tell it you no longer need it. Any thought about your weight (or problem) brings upon more reasons to obsess over. Remember, your will power is not a weapon to be used against your vice.
Smokers encounter this same sort of failure when they attempt to quit smoking. They throw the pack of cigarettes out and try to fight the urge not to smoke. What is the“urge?” That urge is your will power in action bending you; physically pulling you as hard as it can towards materialization of your thoughts. It is not the nicotine that draws the cigarette to you. It is the thoughts of smoking spiraling out of control in your mind. The urge to smoke is your thoughts; your will power drawing to you exactly what you are thinking about. How do people quit smoking? They quit by forcing thoughts of smoking from the mind.
Just think for one moment of that inescapable power as you succumb to any bad habit! That is the law of attraction at its finest. Do you recognize it? We erroneously call the Law of Attraction an urge. An urge is repeated cyclical thoughts over and over “I want a cigarette, I want a brownie,” “I want a beer,” set to replay that thrusts you with the force of gale winds towards the object that you choose to think about. The Law of Attraction is connecting you without fail to your object.
You can chock it up to some chemical imbalance or powerful withdrawal effects of drugs. Call it what you like. But know this. The second you redirect your thoughts, the sensation disappears. Consider driving home from work with obsessive thoughts of I want a cigarette traversing your mind. Someone calls your cell phone. Your thoughts of wanting a cigarette are interrupted as you focus in on the conversation with the caller. The moment you hang up you allow the flood gates of destructive thought to usher in. The urge to smoke that cigarette comes right back. Your constant cyclical thinking propels you towards the object of your thoughts. As long as you think that drug has the ability to start and stop your thoughts, you will misplace your ability to quit. Your ability to quit resides with your ability to redirect your thoughts. Your ability to lose weight resides with your ability to redirect your thoughts. As I said before, any bad habit is a bad habit of the mind first!
You can blame the drug’s effects or a chemical imbalance. You can blame your thyroid or your genes. Blame whatever you want. Understand though that by placing blame you misplace the solution. With any bad habit you have falsified the joy the habit brings. You have developed a false belief. You erroneously believe your bad habit brings you joy. You think pleasurably of smoking or eating. Some motivational authors will tell you that if you associate enough discomfort with bad habits, they will dissipate. To some degree that is true because we generally avoid painful thoughts. Additionally, painful thoughts are often the catalyst necessary to redirect thoughts. We generally do not like thinking about painful thoughts so we listen to our feelings by redirecting our thoughts.
Ultimately, though it does not matter whether you focus on reasons for wanting something or not wanting something. It is that microscopic attention that you are giving the habit that causes the problem to linger in your life. Pain begins in your thoughts. As you associate pain in your thoughts, you tend to stop thinking about painful thoughts. For example, people do not like to think about past relationships gone sour, getting fired or in general any bad experiences endured. It is because these experiences cause the feeling of pain that people steer from them. The feeling is meant to direct you away from the painful thought. Often we listen to these types of feelings and do redirect our thoughts.
However, experiences always start and stop with your thoughts. It is better to thrust out all thought of the bad habit. Any attention given to your habit is thought power. Remember it is not what you do not want that you do not get. It is what you avoid thinking about that you do not get.
Imagine harnessing the urge of your will power in action. We have all felt that will power before; whether it was for a cigarette, a drink or even for the affections of another person. Imagine harnessing that power in any direction you wanted; that unbendable, undeniable, unyielding power to serve your thoughts. Imagine unleashing that power towards your ideals! It is that power directed and concentrated, like you employ now on all your bad habits, directed towards your ideals. Guess what is going to come your way? It cannot be stopped. Your power to attract is unyielding.
Our old thoughts continue because like a well worn shoe they fit comfortably. There is no place like home. You will keep replaying these thoughts until you break free from the pattern. We can redirect our thoughts at any time with concentrated effort. Some people equate effort with massive amounts of work. Effort is energy. Directed energy is power. You do not have to sit in a darkened room sweat brimming from your brow forcing unwanted thoughts from your mind. You just need to be aware that they exist and expel them the second they arise. Replace your harmful thought with a new helpful thought. Soon your new thoughts will feel like that old comfortable shoe.
As I was going through a divorce with my husband, I often had thoughts pop into my mind that made me feel angry towards him. My feelings were an indication that I needed to change my thoughts ‘or else’ more reasons for being angry would be brought upon me. However, I did not always listen to them. Sometimes I let the thoughts brew allowing my angry thoughts to attract more angry thoughts. As I did this without fail greater and greater reasons were brought into my awareness of why I should be angry with him.
This is how both the Law of Attraction and your point of normal neutral work. The Law of Attractions gives you more of the same thoughts to think about. Your normal neutral position keeps you tethered to your current state of affairs.
All of the thoughts, emotions, attitudes and beliefs occur in the mind. My anger was a product of my thoughts. My thoughts were not a product of my anger because I did not feel angry until that first thought occurred. As I let it grow, the feeling grew. Again, my feelings were trying to tell me that I was not in succinct with harmony.
On the occasions that I allowed my thoughts the freedom to explore those angry thoughts, without fail days or sometimes a week later something would happen that would provoke more anger. It may have been something related to my husband that refueled those thoughts or something entirely different such as finding something a trinket of mine that my kids broke.
The point is that by allowing those thoughts to brew, I was attracting more reasons to be angry into my experience. I was manifesting it. This is exactly what I mean when I tell you that you form your reality as you. Most of us do it on the fly. It then does not occur to us that our thoughts create it. We think we are thinking those thoughts due to the circumstance. We do not recall our angry thoughts of yesterday that have brought us incidents to be angry over today. We do not make that connection.
It is difficult to thrust out thoughts that are part of beliefs. They do attract. They will attract. They will be brought to your awareness constantly. Ridding me of my angry thoughts was not easy either. I kept reminding myself that unless I wanted more of these same thoughts and physical experiences, then I needed to stop my thoughts. I battled with pushing them out of my mind too. I found it easier when I changed my focus; that is I thought about something entirely different, something that made me feel good…my ideals.
Your will power is unleashed upon your ideals only by developing thoughts and beliefs that give you that elated feeling. How do you get that elated feeling? You take action on them. It is no different than any habit you have formed. To this point, your ideals have not given you that elated pleasurable feeling because you have taken no action upon them. As you act, your feel good feelings will surface. Soon taking action upon your ideals will become an insatiable urge.
Think how good you feel when you act upon something constructive. You get a project done that has been on your to do list. You take that vacation you have dreamed about. You go to your child’s school function. You take a day off and go to the spa.
Actions fuels thoughts. Thoughts return more of the same. As these “feel good” thoughts occupy your mind, the destructive ones are automatically set aside. You now have good thoughts being produced. If you find yourself stuck in a cyclical thought pattern, take action! Do something that you feel good about.
This is how I broke the pattern of returning to myself angry thoughts. I worked on my book. I organized my closets (something I felt good about doing). I engaged in playful activity with my kids. As I involved myself in physical action, my mental thoughts had to tend to those physical activities and feel good thoughts. Thoughts precede form. So, if I am doing something, I have to think about it first. That left my angry thoughts untended to. My angry thoughts could not occupy my mind and so they left.
To some degree action taken can give relief to your cyclical thoughts, whether your cyclical thoughts are of anger, smoking, weight issues, or problems with your health. Ultimately, you need to deal with your underlying beliefs in order to pivot away from the problem altogether. We will talk about how to do that in a later blog.