#35 YOUR IDEALS, OTHER PEOPLE & YOUR FEARS

Value your own opinion more and others' opinions less. ~ Jonathan Lockwood Huie

     A conversation on your ideals would not be complete without mentioning the onslaught of influence we allow others to prod us with.  Too often we allow other people to manipulate our ideals.  We accept their interpretations of our limits gladly rather than face ridicule.  We let them convince us of some fictitious inability we have that prevents us from achieving our aspirations, as if they can stir truth into our abilities. 

     The people present in your life right now reside on a particular frequency; the same frequency as you.  You are magnetically linked to these people.  As you have energy flowing from you, so too, do they.  As your thoughts become more constructive and your frequency begins to change, your acquaintances will launch a counterattack to return you to their view of what is a normal.   The intention of the attack is to restore the frequency between your thinking and theirs.  Doubt is the arsenal they launch to restore that order.  Much like the role doubt plays in restoring order within you. 

     Understand that people are at different levels of enrichment.  Frequencies differ.  As you leave a frequency, you will leave certain people.   As you enter a new frequency, you will encounter new people with ideals more in line with the fresh new you.  Your ideals that were rejected by those on a negative frequency will be embraced by those on your new frequency.  You then feel validated moving closer to your ideal.  You have likely heard of the expression “climbing the ladder of success.”  You can think of that ladder as having people associated on each rung.  As you move up a rung, those on the old rung will repel some of your newly forming beliefs, while those on the new rung will embrace you.

     People can serve as great validators of your ideals when you connect with the right people.  Consider for simplicity that life’s success ladder has ten rungs.  Sharing your level three rung beliefs and ideas with a level two rung friend will result in a rejection of your ideas by that friend.   Conversely, a level three or level four rung associate would encourage and support you.

Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher.
~ Oprah Winfrey

     When someone rejects your ideals, your ideas, your thoughts and beliefs it is only because their thoughts and beliefs differ from yours.  They are blissfully content to live amongst barriers.  Recognize these barriers presently in them, but do not take ownership of them. 

     The phrase, that is not realistic, ought to be bounced from our vocabulary.  After all, no one can determine what you are willing to make real.  Furthermore, why would you take the advice of someone who has never tried?  An expert non-trier!  If we took the advice of every nay-sayer and dream killer out there we would not have telephones, computers, airplanes or railroads.  Company’s like Federal Express, Mary K. Cosmetics, Google, and Microsoft would not exist.  In fact, we would still be riding horses, retrieving our food from root cellars and receiving our mail from the pony express.  Thankfully, nay-sayers are not able to sidestep everyone.  But how many have they stopped?  How many more contributions might exist? 

     Often our own doubt allows the rejection of others to trump our ideals.  People will tell us we are being unrealistic or expecting too much.  However, we do not have to wear their doubt.  It belongs to them and as far as we should be concerned, they can keep it.  Never take ownership of another person’s doubt.  Just because they are not in a place of readiness does not mean you need reside there with them.  Reach down and pull them up from their blinded existence if you must, but do no join them.

The greatest form of ignorance is forming an opinion about that which we know nothing about.

     You should interpret your ideals according to your desires, not on behalf of the barriers to someone else’s thoughts.  Define exactly what it is you want for the uninhibited you and go for it.  As for other people?  Do not live your life according to their beliefs.  Live your life according to yours!